Thursday, February 10, 2011

Self-conscious and awkward


Striving for perfection
with these top award PJ's

I look back on my junior high and high school years and the word that best describes me is ‘self-conscious and awkward’. Not in my actions. I was a fair athlete for girls in those times. It was not so much an outward awkwardness, though I’m sure it came through once in a while, but it was more in my mind. So how does one deal with these challenges during those teen years? What I did was to be the BEST. I was the best daughter, student, employee, musician, club member, sister, church attendee that I could possibly be. I strived for perfection in every single thing I did. After all, the 4-H motto with which I was raised was:  “To make the best, better”.  Although that motto was very noble in its intent, it begged the question for me “Could I ever do anything that good---to perfection?”  Maybe not, but I’d sure try!  Add to that the fact that I was the oldest of 5 children and it was mentioned to me more than once that I had a responsibility for setting the standard that my siblings would follow---either good or bad!  So what did I do?  I tried to set that bar as high as I could.  And that was not necessarily all good for my younger siblings when one of them was asked, “YOU? You are Susan’s sister?!!”

With this mind set, I often thought I was not quite thin enough or in style. I didn’t have the money to purchase the latest fashions or have a professional hair cut or style.  However, I was pretty pleased with my bargains that I was able to sew that did not look home made. Some of these outfits were actually the envy of my friends! So I became a very good seamstress, sewing most of my clothes, my wedding dress and even later, my husband’s shirts, slacks and suits.  When you add the fact that I was very tall and outside of a few choices in a catalog, ‘tall’ was not easily available in clothing in those days, I’m glad I had this handy skill!  I look back on pictures of myself during this time and wonder  “What were you thinking Susan?!?”  I looked really good!!!  BUT still, I was not quite satisfied.

As I progressed through school in preparation for my career in teaching I continued to excel. As a student teacher I loved every minute of teaching. I knew I was going to be a teacher back in 8th grade and believe it was a gift and calling from God. As I was nearing the end of my student teaching, my supervisor offered me a contract with Seattle school district, so even before graduating from WWSU I had a job.  I was the first new teacher to visit the school that summer and as a result the principal gave me the ‘best’ class of high achieving first graders. I was continuing on the road to ‘making the best better!’  

The family table was always full of kids and sometimes visitors when I was growing up. We were never hungry, except when we got home from school. What was my favorite snack? Open up a can of spinach and heat it on the stove with a big glob of margarine!  After all, those were the days of Popeye and Olive! Spinach was what gave Popeye his super strength in all the cartoons. Another snack was to  take out a frozen loaf of white Langendorf bread and pop it into the oven. Our bread came in waxed paper packaging that did not melt.  When it came out it was almost as good as home made bread fresh from the oven made even better when I slathered it in margarine and strawberry rhubarb jam!  The Langendorf jingle?  “Grow, grow, grow with Lang, Lang, Langendorf bread!” Sometimes we actually had home mak\de butter from our uncle’s farm!  That was a special treat.  With seven mouths to feed at dinner, each of us made sure we got our fair share the first time around, because there were rarely ever seconds left over. So what was for dessert?  Take a piece of bread with margarine and some jam, use part of it to clean up the rest of your plate so it looked almost like it didn’t even need washed. After all, I am the generation of “The Clean Plate Club” and there were children starving in China so how could I ever considering leaving any morsel of food on my plate even if I was too full!

At this point someone may be saying come on, get to the point! This is a nice story, but what does this have to do with a Babyboomer Grandma getin’ fit and healthy?  Please be patient and you will see. As the quote says: "Those who are unaware of history are destined to repeat it."  Plus, this is VERY therapeutic for ME! 


What my history reveals is how some of my thinking and unwitting participation would later lead to my overeating and weight issues. Hopefully it will show those reading this some ways to avoid some of the same pitfalls I fell into.  Others, how to protect our grandchildren’s generation. Still others will just shake their head knowingly, because their stories are so similar.


Thanks for visiting with this "Babyboomergrandma". My journey has only just begun!

Until next time, may God richly bless your life.



Friday, February 4, 2011

Fat & Happy... Best of both worlds?


 I have had a struggle off and on with weight for the past 30+ years. In June of last year, 2010 I made a conscious decision to be happy fat!  That is something I had never in my life considered doing. But I was tired of the struggle and figured it would lower my stress to just be happy fat!  So what was the result? No stress? Happy with my weight? Enjoying life to the fullest? None of the above!  What happened is that I gained 10 more pounds and now weighed my ALL TIME HIGH of 244 pounds.   That's 99 pounds more than I weighed on my wedding day 39 years ago! At least it wasn't an even hundred! Wow!  This strategy definitely was NOT working for me!
37 years ago I weighed 179 pounds full term with my first baby. Four years later I stopped weighing myself at 199 pounds with my second baby. There was no way I was going to go over 200 pounds!  When she delivered 3 weeks late, I know I tipped those scales at plus-200 pounds whether I got on them or not!  

Rebekah, my second born
daughter a 5 months.

3 weeks after my first baby Deborah was born  I was
almost back to my pre-pregnancy weight! For those
who noticed, yes, it was the 70's and my skirt
was very short!!

32 years later and many times in between,  I would think about those days and the 199 pounds---just to be at that weight again would be wonderful. I have the pictures to prove that I lost all that baby weight and cannot blame the big weight gain     through the years on my daughters!



College years
But this story starts many years before as a body conscious child hearing adults who were never quite satisfied with their weight and how they looked. Even though my pudginess of adolescence turned to a teenage slimmer body as I grew another 4" in height. Along with the height came feet to match the height---"Gunboats" according to the taunting boys at school! Let's say it was a very awkward time for me with body image.

Fast forward to High School. Jackie Kennedy and Twiggy were very much 'role models' and regarded as fashion icons. Skinny was replacing the curvy image of Marilyn Monroe. Photo's from college show me very fit looking!  These are now my motivation pictures to regain that fit look! College kept me so busy with studying and classes that I had very little snack time. There were regular meals at the cafeteria plus no refrigerator handy! After graduation and several years of teaching I married the love of my life! While preparing for the wedding, teaching, and sewing most of the dresses for the wedding including mine, I lost 15 pounds without even trying. I walked down the aisle at a very slim 145 pounds, the least I have ever weighed in my adult life.

How little I realized that on my
40th birthday I looked so good!
But I still felt overweight
especialy below the waist! 
The post baby years should have helped me to get it together! I wanted to enter my 40's having achieved the goal of my ideal weight.  If motivation could do it, a high school reunion should qualify shouldn't it?  Well how about achieving that goal at 50?  Didn't work either??? Then surely entering my 60th decade would bring success???   To be continued.......................



Note the thighs are NOT touching!!
 

In shorts in Jamaica at 40!








Thanks for visiting with this
"Babyboomergrandma".  Until next time, may God richly bless YOU.